My mind tells me many reason’s to forget her, to never think about her, to say the disappointment she will get at some point will be her own fault, that I need to leave it alone because its been almost 8 months, and I’m sure she has sexed someone by now. My mind is rational. My mind is true.
My heart is weak, and ignores all that my mind tells me. I don’t know why. It refuses to accept the situation. It does not want to acknowledge what so many have told me. It rejects the notion that she may have been the wrong one for me to begin with. My heart, my emotions, won’t let go. And it annoys me, because I cannot control it, or make it go away and so I feel like I’m torturing myself. This is not what life is supposed to be about.
I wanted you to know that I did read this and I am going to let you go on with the REAL business of letting go and freeing yourself.
Very apt Title!
You are right… its always a struggle between the Mind & the Heart… and at times they are SO different.. it just doesn’t feel that they are in the same body!!
Greetings, Joe!
It sounds like you’re in a place of letting it go. While your heart and mind battle, your eyes observe the proof that resolves the discrepancy:
Tina isn’t there…
So it’s a no…
And it’s good that you want the battle to be over, because that leads to the personal closure you need.
There are better days ahead for you, Joe.
Wow! I wish I found this site sooner….I know exactly how you’re feeling….now all that remains in my heart is rage/disbelief that I could be treated so poorly by my ex, and I am suppose to move on??
What will give me the most satisfaction is to rat out my ex to
the current so called gf and let her know that I’ve been sleeping with my ex since april…..to feel deep in my heart that my ex would ever change is so foolish and total torture.
claire I know the feelings you are talking about. I don’t understand why they don’t want “us” but don’t want us to go too far. I’m not sure what type of thinking a person has to have to think that after 7 yrs, and a yr of engagement, that I’m gonna some how want to be just friends, and talk about her new dating life? I mean, what the HELL is up with that? It’s like she woke up and forgot that we were not a mammy-pammy 6 month relationship.
As for your ex, unless the sex is awesome and you can deal with not being the main one emotionally, I would get him all hot and bothered, and just when he’s ready to have his fun, get up, walk away, get dressed and cut him off immediately.
LOL@ “I would get him all hot and bothered, and just when he’s ready to have his fun, get up, walk away, get dressed and cut him off immediately.” Joe, you ought to heed your own advise….nuff said.
Dueces!
I’m not even gonna pretend i could see her naked and walk away. I’d be lying to you, myself, and God. Sorry,
LOL