9 months and nothing has changed. I’m still not over it. I still feel love for her. She still moves on with apparent ease, deliberation, and without a look backward at all. I stand baffled at times, to think of the things we said to each other, and to see a complete and sharp break. I would have thought we would have at least went back and forth a bit like so many couples do until they figure it out, or see they can no longer be together. Instead, its as if I did something wrong, cheated, hit her, cursed her out [though I have wanted to do that many a night] or some other thing that would make someone act in this manner. Like, I’m moving on because there are bigger and better people out there than how this boyfriend treated me. That’s what it feels like.
And me…I’ve, geuss you’d have to call it dated, a person for many months, had a few other dates as well, and nothing steers me away. Even now I want to text her to tell her I miss her. But of course the fear that she’ll read it as she is laying next to someone keeps me from doing so. And besides, she’s not stupid, well she is, but not intellectually at least, I’ve always been very clear. So she knows I miss her. She knows she could call me or see me. She knows.
Which means of course she does not wish to see me. Again, as if I did something wrong. At times like this I wish I had, just so I would know what the flipping problem is. I’m beginning to re-examine the whole relationship. Because I cannot believe that anyone could really love someone enough to the extent she told me and acted, and then move on in this manner.
Maybe she cared, but never really loved me.
Wanted to let you know that I caught this entry. You will live through it and be better for it on the other side, watch.
i know how you feel like im going through the same thing..its been 8 months for me and im not over him….last time he texted me was back in june he told me that he loves me and that ill be always in his heart..i responded: “empty words” he texted me back” i never wanna talk to you again, i knew you didn’t change” and we havent spoken since then..it hurts like hell..its so hard…im heartless and cold now..i wish i could find someone else but im not interested in anyone..
I F’ing hate when they say that. If they love us so damn much have some god damn backbone and work it out, or at least try. IF Tina had tried, if she had come to me and said here are my concerns, feelings whatever, and then after addressing we could not get along, then I could have just…taken some time and then we could have been friends. But not like this. I’m sure its the same for your ex.
This is unbelievable.. It seems like i was reading my own writing.. I’m in exactly the same boat. it’s been 9 months for me as well when you wrote this..so 10 months to date.. It still hurts like hell. I didn’t cheat on her or hit her either. She just fell out of love and i tried to ignore it and kept fighting but in the end, she just moved on and never looked back..
and guess what, her name was Tina too.. so f’ing sad..
I feel the same way we broke up in july and I’m still not over him. I try to move on but I can’t because the truth is I still love him . The last time we talked was on valentine’s day when he emailed me and saw how I was doing I know that I still have a place in his heart and that we can work things out , but were both are just to stubborn to admit it .
It’s been nine months since she officially dumped me. We we’re together for almost six years, telling each other that nothing would get in the way and we can’t live with out each other. Then after I moved in and lost my job, she met a lesbian that convinced her to replace me down to a T. Goes to show what greed, gluttony, and daily stress can do to once totally capable of loving person. It can weaken you. Weak enough to make irrational and messed up decisions. She’s now in a love less relationship with that lesbian, only to receive rent and whatever she felt missing with me.
It sucks that people learn the same lessons at different times. Now she and I can never be. I’ll never forget.
Its coming up to over a year now for me and I’ve still not got over her , we were together for 5 years .
When we were first met I kinda k new she was the one ( the only one who could ever hurt me ) its been difficult for me this year I think about her everyday I even told her I know I will never get over her.
We have met up a few times since the break up but its been difficult seeing her again I can never be just her friend .
This is the time of year we broke up last year , I’ve had two texts and a email from her and still havnt replied . Why does this hurt so much ?
This is beautifully written & well put!! It simply describes my life story. It’s been 9 months for me (July 30th) and It’s still hard to move on. I dated a few but I cannot get her out of my head. She said she loves me in her last phone message and said she will call back, I always hoped. Then the series of text messages started again, so I had expressed to her in a txt how I feel about us as I always did during the course of our relationship; I guess it was too hard for her to put up with my emotions and passionate, high energy personality. So, my heart was broken after she told me “I cannot be present & devoted” Over a text!!! Wow!! That is a slap in the face. Not even a phone conversation (we knew each other for two & a half years). I felt I was cut off! I was hurting badly, like cutting the baby’s umbilical chord. Then 6 weeks after she wrote she is returning my belongings and wanted to meet me. I never met her, and told her to put stuff at my door step. After all the nice words, we expressed and said to one another. We truly supported each other!! I fell It’s like she said kind & loving words but never actually meant it. I want to tell her now: LOVE=ACTION. Show me love!!! Other couples in my circle (I can count 6) sorted it out, but not us. I can only blame myself now for letting our relationship slip through the holes . We were too proud for our love to overcome this other day to day life, which is meaningless. What is life without love? You tell me.
No matter what she does I will always love her, & nothing, no one (friends, professionals), can ever change my feelings about her. I’m not sure how I can ever move on. I love that stubborn/proud, loving, caring, good hearted woman. She is always the one for me. I am hopeful….I have to be. Though, I’m not putting my life on hold and am going out with friends, doing my own thing but there isn’t one single day that I can’t stop thinking about her. I guess, time heals all wounds. So I feel your pain, and your pain is mine.
Maybe she is thinking the exact same thing. I know I do. He hasn’t called in all these months and I miss him so.
It’s comforting to read your e-mails. I am up late – crying all of a sudden, and just about to e-mail Pete (who walked out on me 8 months ago after 4 years together) but I found this site instead. I thought I was doing ok – not great, but at least ok. And then all of a sudden it’s like it happened yesterday – the sense of loss is overwhelming.
I think the thing that is hardest to accept is how lack-lustre he has been, he makes an effort to stay in touch – but never really enough to make me feel like it’s a genuine attempt to be anything but a weird limbo. I think he thinks I’m quite fine and moving forward, although he’s told friends he knows that he is hurting me. great.
I hope this 8-month mark ‘heartbreak’ will last only a few days. It’s taken me by surprise how upset I still am. I hope the next ‘jolt’ is a long way off. Best of luck with your loves everyone.
It hurts to think of tht day bt today is the day my gf broke up wid me exactly 9 months ago..we wr on the verge of deciding our life togethr..each of our parents knew abt the another bt her mom objected and all the lov n care i gave her..she cdnt stood fr me n tk a call..she strtd to cnvnce me dat we r nt cmpatible..she ws d only gal fr whom i got serious abt, fr whom i goot serious abt my life n my career..she ws d 1 fr whm i ws ready to go beyond limits..bt they say too much of anythng spoils it n i thnk dats wat hapnd wid me..today wen i thnk of the day dat wen i returned frm ofce to our rented home n i found her letter in wich she mentioned dat its gud fr us to b apart n wen i opened the almirah…her closet ws empty..she had left me…i got d shock of my lyf..I cdnt stop loving a gal who ws so caring n lovng..i still dnt knw whether she really did or it ws pretension..watever it ws..I cdnt stop lovng her n cn nvr..she has moved on so easily bt she will remain the only love of my life..my forevver love.. 😦
hey! the lackluster comment deb made really hit home. mine too kind of tries, gets my hopes up and then leaves me hanging for weeks on end. I was effing sick of it, so I just never responded to his last e-mail.
But I miss him every day, just like you guys miss your loves. I kind of randomly cry, and remember how much fun we had together. wrestling, hiking, and bedroom stuff was the absolute best. I just wish I could tell him how much I appreciate and love him. but my pride won’t let me, and it is probably the same with him. or maybe he just doesn’t care. I know I’m way better then him as a person- many people have said I”m out of his league, personality wise, talent wise, intelligence, looks, money, everything. haha. but I loved his little serious face. I really would have done anything for him. aw, babe, I miss you more then I can express.
Hi, its been eight months for me after a eight year relationship and yes it kills. I loved her with all my heart and was very devoted to her.Think about her on a daily basis, I lost trust with her and could never get it back. I have dated a few girls since , but ended it because it wasn’t fair to them I am still on love with her and it almost felt as though I was having an affair on her even though we are not together , can’t seem to move forward .
I really hope all of you are well now and have moved on past these painful memories. Its been 9 months for me and I thought i was doing fine, but im starting to miss her so much. it hurts bad and I think its because the holidays are here again and we spent the last 5 of them together not to mention that we have a 4 yr old beautiful, and sweet little girl together. we were together almost 6 years and no matter how much time goes by I miss them so much, but theres nothing thats going to bring her back. all of her friends were always single and always interfering in our relationship. well after a while she chose to party and run around with her friends instead of settling down and im trying to accept it but it hits me so hard at times. its like she never even loved me and never shows a sign of missing me. thank god we get along for our child and thats the best thing I can ask for. just sucks I still love her so much.
ive really given up on love for awhile. dont feel the need to to rush into another relationship. jus seems like once things start getting a little serious after dating I tend to fall back very quickly. I dont think its fair for me to pursue a woman when im not over all the pain from the last. I need some help, I just cant comprehend all this pain. I think im doing fine then “BOOM” im back in a hole filled of sadness. if anyone has any advice please email me at cuserocks34@gmail.com
My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you. Theres nothing worse than mending a broken heart.