Today, really today and yesterday, I’ve spent nearly 18 hours at the hospital. I have a friend that has gone in for emergency surgery. I’ve know her about the same time as I’ve been apart from Tina. She’s a good friend, great girl, perhaps even wanted more from me at one point, but after watching the level at which I had loved Tina, wanted and INDEED deserves, that love toward herself. She knew I could not give it to her, but we have remained friends.
She may have to have a hysterectomy, no thats not true. She will have to have one, and it will now happen sooner than later. We had hoped the pain in her stomach was just from her appendix, but it is worse than that. It’s bad news, and is draining emotionally.
What’s worse, at least for me, is she is at the same hospital that my mother was in before she died. I have not been back there since that time, and so memories flood over into my mind. Memories of her, memories of her and Tina.
I’ve been up since 6:30AM, after only two hours sleep. I’m not that strong emotionally to begin with, and my walls are lower than usual. I try to hide it, and do a decent job, since concern for my friend is the foremost thing in my mind, but other stuff is crowding my pysch, and wearing me down. Her other friends and family get to the hospital, all are very kind about how I’ve been there, its nice to hear, but sends jabs thru the heart, since I feel like Tina should have known this about me, should have figured into her decision making process. I hear echos from my best friend who reminds me all the time that she did not make the decision rationally. In the sense, of sitting down and thinking through all the angles the way a person buys a house or plans a vacation. The stuff that should have been important, were not the factors she was thinking about. At least according to him.
Either way, I’m fighting two battles in myself until I finally leave for the day. Her best friend is here now, so can stay with her at the hospital. I reach home, and I’m wiped. I look into the mirror in my bathroom. I don’t know the person staring back. I look beaten, tired, drawn,..old.
It’s a new day in my life. Has been for awhile, and it feels like the end.
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